Who doesn’t love gatherings? Unless you’re shy or have social phobia, you’d probably jumped when you heard the idea. 😜 Anyway, haven’t blogged in longggg time. Been busy with graduation and stuff. Graduation week was so hectic. Had a few friends who flew over from SG so we had a mini gathering with them to catch up on some stuff. Surprisingly, it was less awkward than I expected.
It was really fun actually. Well, because Nate was there so it was great fun. We had lunch, went window shopping and then of course the compulsory Coffee Time! I think it was enjoyable because since we don’t see each other a lot, during that time no one was busy with their phones so we had talked a lot. We were probably the noisiest at Joe Suns and at Caffe Bene 😂 It was a great way to chill. Hopefully wouldn’t be the last.
We had lunch at Joe Sun Coffee Co. The food looks kinda fancy right? It actually costs less than you think. And it’s delicious as well.
Next, we had our little coffee break at Caffe Bene. I ordered latte of course but my friends decided to order two huge bingsoos asdessert. Goodbye to dieting! 😂
I just love a good cup of coffee. Especially when I just feel like chilling, doing nothing and just gossiping with friends. I also am a big fan of “hipster cafes”. It’s not because it’s trendy or anything. It’s because of the vibe it gives from the moment you walk in to the moment you leave. I talk a lot and I love listening to peoples’ stories so I prefer places that are not so crowded and loud. And these type of cafes offers the ideal atmosphere to just chill out and talk all night.
I started drinking coffee when I was 10 years old. Back then it was just 3 in 1s. Had my first real cappuccino when I turned 16. Got into the whole coffee/tea addiction about four years later. Although I’m not exactly a hardcore fan. I’ve only been able to get a taste of the espresso recently. Not really into that one. I’m more of a mocha/latte/macchiato kinda person.
The October Coffee House is one of my favorite coffee shops in this town. The shop has a very dim lighted setting, spacious interior and the menus are reasonably priced. The staff is super friendly too. Back when I was still studying in uni I used to come here a lot after class while waiting for my sister to pick me up. Sometimes I come here with a couple of friends. This place is quite famous so whenever you’re in KK you have to check this place out!
The title might sound a bit depressing to some. But hear me out first. I’m not a loner and I definitely am not feeling depressed. It’s just that I cherish my time being alone. I don’t hate people for sure. I love my family and friends. But there times in life when you just wanna have that “me” time and forget about everything that’s going on in your life. Some may call it self reflect, I call it therapy.
I felt eager writing about this after talking about it with my cousin on the phone just now (we usually talk for hours just to catch up). Although I can’t fully grasp what she’s feeling right now cause she lives far away from home while I still live at home, tho I can relate to her in another sense.
I used to feel really sad when I had to eat lunch by myself, sitting by myself during breaks or just having no one to talk to during gatherings. When I first got into uni I was the girl who would just do whatever other people were doing, I had no ambition nor drive so I just went with it. I was always surrounded by people (the you can’t be alone kinda vibe/clingy). But then years went by and this happened, and that happened. First I was with this bunch then I was with the other bunch. You know the usual stuff. Until I’ve finally come to terms with myself. “You can’t please everyone” was what I told myself. But I was lucky enough to have met some pretty cool independent women along the way. I call em the lone rangers. I’m happy I got to know them during those crazy years in uni and it helped me grow as a person.
The valuable things I can say I’ve learnt from them is that, never to let gender, age, how you dress or fear of being alone get in the way of what you want. And Sure, life is all about sharing. I believe in that. But in that moments that I spared for just me, I learned a lot about myself. I got in touch with my strength and my weaknesses. I started finding my own way and was no longer lost in the crowd.
Living life isn’t just about getting to know other people, it’s also about getting to know yourself.
This could potentially be a really long post. Feel really excited to talk about this one. Because I kinda like this topic. Haha. So where do I even start? For some who don’t know me very well, they could probably assume that I have a lot of friends. But for those who know me all too well, they would know that I’ve only got few friends in my circle. People walk in and out of my life like fashion trends. I’m not even kidding. But there are a select few who have been with me through thick and thin throughout the years and they’re really my best mates.
There are friends whom I’ve known for more than 10 years, some I’ve known more than 5 years and a a few childhood friends as well. It wasn’t always smooth sailing tho, I could actually write a book about all the drama I went through with these people. But at the end of the day, we’d always have a laugh. I think one of the reasons why some of us remained friends is because none of us ever take each other or even ourselves seriously. Which is why I love em so much. Okay, enough with the mushy talks.
So last week was a mixture of hellos and goodbyes. Pey, who’s been living out of town coz of work is now moving back into the city coz she got transfered. Yeay! I haven’t seen her yet coz she’s been busy with moving and settling down at her workplace and everything but I’m happy for her. She’s been wanting to transfer for so long we’re all glad she finally got her way. Meanwhile, CK’s found a job in KL and now she’s moving away next week. So we decided to throw a farewell party for her. Well, I wouldn’t exactly call it a party tho. It was more of ‘spend the whole day together eating’ kinda thing. We spent most of the time at Z’s house rampaging her room and her makeup. And then it was just eating some more and gossiping till midnight. Ya know, the usual stuff. It’s sad that she’s leaving, but then again KL’s only 2 hours away so it’s fine I guess.
For me, the important thing in friendship is not physically being around each other all the time. It’s really just being able to act freely and to just be yourself when you’re around them. Sure, communication matters too to keep you in touch and everything. But there should also be a good amount of understanding between friends. People evolve. The ones you know in high school or in uni may not be the same person today like they were before. Their lives may also have changed since then. I’m not saying that they’ve become a whole different person. It’s just in my opinion, people upgrade into a better version of themselves. Some have new commitments or jobs and may not always have the time to just chill and relax.
We each have our own lives to manage and staying in touch might not always be on our minds. But that doesn’t mean that we just stopped being friends. I have friends that I haven’t seen in a long time but to me they’ll always be in my heart. Bless em. No matter how much drama they’ve given me and I’ve given them, they will always have a special place in my heart (It’s cheesy I know. And even harder to write). Because it’s not the journey that’s memorable, it’s the ones who are actually in it. And that memory gave me great lessons and helped shape the person I am today. There’s a reason for everything I’m sure.
The Dimsum that came and disappeared in a second.
I’m always grateful for the people who’ve come and go and I appreciate those who’ve stayed even more. And I’m lucky to have met them all.
It’s the last day of September and I decided to start my very own blog. I’ve always liked writing but I’ve never actually thought of blogging myself. Had a tumblr account but lost my password and never even posted once there. I’ve only been a silent reader throughout the years because I do enjoy reading peoples’ blogs. Hope this won’t be my first and last post tho. Am known for my inconsistencies and laziness. Hopefully I can continue writing so I can look back at it all and have a laugh as time goes by. So here’s to interesting stories and memorable journeys….I hope. In other words, welcome to drama land!
Posting this pic just coz im craving some mocha latte right now.
Twenty Cappuccinos 